Why isn’t the grass greener?
More often than not we tend to believe that if we can change certain circumstances in our lives we will be happier. Ironically, most of what we want more of is material or external to our own personal internal well-being.
We often suggest that a new home, car, love interest, or more money will make us rejoice in prosperity and thus, lead to an all fulfilling life of merriment. Or that moving to a new city or state might give hope of an exceptional life and exceed ultimate levels of unspeakable optimism.
Question, if this is true, why does one backslide to disgruntlement once the intoxication of acquiring cursory amusement wears off?
My response to this question is “external happiness is temporary” and it’s perishable. This phenomenon might feel amazing for a while, I.e., moving into a dream home, or increasing one’s earnings but eventually the infatuation grows old, and the shine wears off as anything else. Once again, we are off looking for the next sensational external force to elevate our current status. This repetitive cycle continues until previous paradigms shift in an upward optimistic direction.
It’s not until we realize that conquering feats aren’t always designed to quench the desire for ultimate happiness, it may improve the underlying discontentment as an ephemeral euphoria.
Sustained happiness begins and ends from within. It is a frame of mind, a chosen perspective on life.
Things that we do to excuse ourselves from living a great life like blaming our upbringing or a past relationship, all hold us back from our potential. Instead we live our lives unnoticed, quietly, and often misguided instead of enjoying the things that truly matter in life. We spend a lot of time stressing over what we think we do not have instead of what we truly have already packaged up inside. Free it and let it out.
Practice seeing your life through a different lens. The mind can expand and be renewed through exploring new ideas and then meditating on them, Meditation is a great way to clear the slate, and process your minds existing thought process, one can then detect ways to add a new outlook to the brain and bring on a renewing (more on meditation later).
When you learn new things it creates opportunities for you to transform internally and eventually dissolves the negative thinking process and creates opportunities for new positive thinking.